Let your kids know you are listening!
Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand.
Express interest without being intrusive.
When your child is talking about something concerning them – stop and listen.
Listen to their point of view and let them complete what they are saying before you respond.
Be available for your kids
Initiate conversations.
Find time for one on one activity – dinner is a great time to be available!
Learn about their interests…latest music, for example – and ask questions.
Learn their patterns so you know when the best time is for them to converse.
Respond in a way you know that your kids will hear you
Don’t get emotional! Soften your reactions. They will turn off when they hear anger.
Express your opinion without negating theirs.
Don’t argue – but simply state,,,”I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think or believe.”
“Let’s talk more once you think about it a little longer.”
Focus on your kids feelings rather than your own during conversation.
Finally…remember…love conquers all! Parenting is the most difficult and rewarding job in the world. Realize that your children will test you. Kids will learn from the choices you make and how you interact with them. Reinforce your child’s strengths! Visualize your son or daughter being a world-class decision-maker and a success once they leave the nest!
